Emotional intellegence is radically different from intellectual intellegence; one does not mean the other.

1. Label their feelings, rather than labeling people or situations. “I feel impatient.” vs “This is ridiculous.”
“I feel hurt and bitter”. vs. “You are an insensitive jerk.”

“I feel afraid.” vs. “You are driving like a idiot.”

2. Distinguish between thoughts and feelings. Thoughts: I feel like…& I feel as if…. & I feel that
Feelings: I feel: (feeling word)

3. Take responsibility for their feelings. “I feel jealous.” vs. “You are making me jealous.”
4. Use their feelings to help them make decisions. “How will I feel if I do this?” “How will I feel if I don’t”
5. Show respect for other people’s feelings. They ask “How will you feel if I do this?” “How will you feel if I don’t.”
6. Feel energized, not angry. They use what others call “anger” to help them feel energized to take productive action.
7. Validate other people’s feelings. They show empathy, understanding, and acceptance of other people’s feelings.
8. Practice getting a positive value from their negative emotions. They ask themselves: “How do I feel?” and “What would help me feel better?”
They ask others “How do you feel?” and “What would help you feel better?”

9. Don’t advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture to others. They realize it doesn’t feel good to be on the receiving end of such behavior, so they avoid it.
10. Avoid people who invalidate them, or don’t respect their feelings. As much as possible, they choose to associate only with other people with high EQ.

Emotional Intelligence & Emotional Competency

‘Nuff said.

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A while ago I did a HDR roundup, well here’s a newer one (that I have had no involvement with) for those seeking up to date HDR information.

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Re-imagining of Mickey Mouse in a post modern Japanese style filtered through the Beatles Yellow Submarine.

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I went to put my boots on the other day and stopped just before I put my feet into them.

No reason, just a feeling.

I turned over the first boot and shook it. Nothing.

On the second, a spider dropped out, landing on the kitchen tiles. It considered me for a second before trying to make a scuttle for it.

I have a strange relationship with spiders so debated my next action for a heartbeat; it ended with my squishing the spider with the boot that had been its home.

I see spiders a lot out of the corner of my vision, where there are no spiders in this reality. I could do with both less real and emphemeral spiders. Admirable creatures.

A very handy organizer, great for those that like notes and essential for the GTD crowd.

And of course it is free too.

Do It is a small application to manage categorized to do lists. Each to do item can be linked with a file on your computer, a URL, such as the address of a website, or a contact from your address book. The linked item can be opened directly from the Do It window. To do items can also include notes, priorities and deadlines, which can be set as reminders in iCal.

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Everyone has too much stress in there lives these days, here’s 52 ways to reduce that stress, although here I reprint only the top 10:

52 Proven Stress Reducers

Get up fifteen minutes earlier in the morning.  The inevitable morning mishaps will be less stressful.

Prepare for the morning the evening before.  Set the breakfast table, make lunches, put out the clothes you plan to wear, etc.

Don’t rely on your memory.  Write down appointment times, when to pick up the laundry, when library books are due, etc.

Do nothing which, after being done, leads you to tell a lie.

Make duplicates of all keys.  Bury a house key in a secret spot in the garden and carry a duplicate car key in your wallet, apart from your key ring.

Practice preventive maintenance.  Your car, appliances, home, and relationships will be less likely to break down/fall apart “at the worst possible moment.”

Be prepared to wait.  A paperback can make a wait in a post office line almost pleasant.

Procrastination is stressful.  Whatever you want to do tomorrow, do today; whatever you want to do today, do it now.

Plan ahead.  Don’t let the gas tank get below one-quarter full; keep a well-stocked “emergency shelf” of home staples; don’t wait until you’re down to your last bus token or postage stamp to buy more; etc.

Don’t put up with something that doesn’t work right.  If your alarm clock, wallet, shoe laces, windshield wipers - whatever- are a constant aggravation, get them fixed or get new ones.

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For pictures of the 2008 Texas sinkhole see here.

A 330-foot-deep sinkhole swallowed about a dozen homes in Guatemala City:
Officials blamed the sinkhole on recent rains and an underground sewage flow from a ruptured main. The two bodies were found near the enormous fissure, floating in a river of sewage.
The pit emitted foul odors, loud noises and tremors, shaking the surrounding ground. A rush of water could be heard from its depths, and authorities feared it could widen or others could open up.

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